The law of attraction, happiness and emotions. How does it work?
The law of attraction states “that which is like unto itself, is drawn” which basically means that things that are the same, are attracted to each other. It is really talking about energy so positive energy attracts more positive energy and negative energy attracts more negative energy. It’s also important to note that the universe or source energy does not place a judgment on energy as we humans might – to source, it is just different frequencies of energy – all of which are valid.
Everything in the universe is vibrating at a different frequency, (see my post on the law of attraction for more information on this). This is how the universe communicates – in terms of energy and vibrations. There are no miscommunications, there are no errors – things that vibrate at a similar level are drawn together.
We are living in an inclusive universe. There is no ‘exclusion’ and by that, I mean that the universe does not comprehend ‘no’ or the ‘lack of something’ in the way that we would express a preference such as “No, I don’t like ice-cream” or “I don’t want to live in poverty”. There is only the law of attraction, or inclusion.
Our own brain works in a similar way: we cannot not think of something that someone talks about. For example, if I said to you, “don’t think about a pink elephant”, you cannot not think about a pink elephant – it pops right into your mind, the minute I tell you not to think about it. And the more emphatically I talk about it and demand that you don’t think about it, the more you can’t help but think about it and the clearer your vision becomes.
This understanding is vital to be able to communicate your desires and preferences clearly to the universe. If you want something such as a positive, healthy relationship for example, but because of your life experience, you express this in a negative way by saying something like: “I don’t want to be in an abuse relationship”, guess what? The universe can only respond to your vibration and what you have your attention on. Therefore, if you are holding your attention on the “not having and abusive relationship” part – the only thing the universe can deliver to you is, you guessed it: an abusive relationship, which is the opposite of what you said you wanted. This is because, your thoughts about not being in an abusive relationship most likely reminded you of a time when you were in an abusive relationship, causing you to feel bad or fearful; your vibrational output would reflect this negative feeling and this is what the universe ‘hears’ – a request based on a vibration of the fear of being abused.
The lesson here is a simple one – you must learn to express all things in positive, beneficial ways. So in the above case, it would mean focusing on wanting a loving, caring relationship based on equality and respect, and that’s it. The word or feelings of abuse must remain absent from your thoughts and your feelings.
What you will then attract is the thing you want – your loving and caring relationship. And in the process, you will have felt much happier and more joyful along the way, since your focus would have been on positive, happy thoughts, steering away from the negative more fearful thoughts which produced the new desire in you in the first place. In fact, it is the feeling of happiness and joy gained from this journey that you really want anyway, not the relationship. You only really want the relationship because you think it will bring you happiness and joy, so it is the journey towards the destination that is the real prize.
So can I attract happiness?
Feeling happy or joyful is our natural state of being. Source energy, which runs through everyone of us, everything on the planet and universe, and operates on many vibrational and dimensional levels, is based on love, bliss and joy. A feeling of well-being, happiness and unconditional love, is the emotional state that is most natural to source and to our inner beings (think soul, higher self or God-self here). It is the connection to source that we are all trying to find again once we are born onto the physical earth plane, although in reality there is no separation from our higher selves at all – only our perception of disconnection. Once on earth, because we have become so good and so well-practiced at understanding the world through our five physical senses of sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing, that many of us find it difficult to accept that we are part of a greater consciousness because it is not immediately apparent to us when we use those senses – so we convince ourselves that it doesn’t exist. But what we are missing here is that source energy is a vibrational energy, as are we ultimately. If we could use our sense of vibrational alignment (think something like a tuning dial on a radio) and focus on our vibrational output and receptivity, we would FEEL how we are connected to source and our happiness would flow.
It is this”sixth sense” or the ability to sense the energy and vibrations around us that many of us have forgotten and we therefore feel separated from who we really are a lot of the time. What we are missing is the guidance system we all have in place which tells us how close we are getting to fully realising our true selves.
This guidance system is infinitely simple in its organisation – the closer we get to reconnecting with our true selves, the happier we feel; and the further apart we get, the more miserable or uncomfortable we feel. It is our EMOTIONS that are the key to realising our blissful, natural state. It’s a bit like the game or ‘cold or warm’ you play as a child. The closer, you get, the ‘warmer’ you get. The further away you move from the object you are seeking, the ‘colder’ you become.
Emotions are the key
Your emotions are your guidance system to attracting anything you want. Emotions also have a frequency and the higher the frequency, the more positive you will feel the emotion to be. Think of the words we have evolved to describe some of the emotions we feel:
- Feeling high or ‘buzzing’ = feelings of joy and elation associated with higher frequency vibrations
- Feeling low or feeling down = associated with lower frequencies
- Feeling depressed = especially low mood or state associated with very low frequencies.
Many of us will have experienced feeling depressed and lethargic, where even the most basic of tasks such as getting dressed and eating seem to lack appeal for us. On the other hand, when we feel elated or joy, we bounce through life with great motivation and everything seems easier to us.
Frequencies in everyday life
The brain gives of electrical impulses that are measured in Hertz (Hz) which is the unit of frequency and this defines the state of consciousness that we are in. In measuring brainwaves on an electroencephalograph (EEG), scientists have identified a range of brain frequencies within the normal human range: These are:
- Beta waves – Greater than 13 Hz (seen in adults mainly and can be augmented by certain drugs)
- Alpha waves – 8-13 Hz – normal waking adults display these states
- Theta waves – 3.5-7.5 Hz – usually associated with sleep
- Delta waves – 3 Hz or less – associated with deep sleep
In this research, the lower frequencies are associated with sleeping and the higher frequencies are associated with more active states and indeed, some drug-induced ‘highs’.
Music, with its great range of frequencies from the shrill piccolo to the reverberating double bass, has long been associated with an ability to affect mood – just think of the last time you were feeling low and put on your favourite music to make yourself feel better. In the scientific world, music therapy is now being accepted more and more as a legitimate form of pain control and a recent review of over 400 articles looked in depth at the neurochemistry of music and its effects on brain chemicals and emotional state such as stress, as well as general health and immunity.
So there are many ways in which different frequencies can have an impact upon us. The nature of ‘science evidence and clinical research’ demands that more research is needed on the cause and effect and potential benefits of feeling optimistic and joyful in order to make a definitive link between the two, however, in any other circles, the common sense and anecdotal evidence is irrefutable. Feeling good tends to lead to better opportunities and better outcomes.
In reality, our emotions exist of a spectrum of frequencies, much like the electromagnetic spectrum which extends far beyond the limited range of visible light that our human eyes can translate – gamma-rays at one and down to radio waves and even lower frequencies at the other.
On one end of the spectrum are the lower frequency emotions such as Hate, anger and depression and at the other end are the higher frequency emotions such as happiness, joy and elation. Esther Hicks and the teachings of Abraham explain it as an emotional scale which we can all choose to move up or down depending on our thoughts.
It is important to understand here that the universe and source consciousness has no judgment of your emotions – they just are. Source does not judge you if you have negative emotions, in the same way that it does not praise you if you have more positive emotions. It just accepts where you are and what you are offering vibrationally as perfect. It is where you are and from that place, you can expand. No judgment, just an understanding of the way things work.
We humans are the ones that apply judgments to emotions but that is usually because we feel better when we are happier and so we call this a ‘positive’ emotion. When we feel depressed or helpless, it does not feel good at all, so we label this a ‘negative’ emotion. But if you are int the place of feeling helpless, and could look at this like source, you would consider your emotions differently. You would look at where you are, see that it is not where you want to be, realise that your emotions are guiding you and showing you that you are not where you want to be, and then choose a better-feeling thought.
Now in this scenario, you might be unable to jump to bliss or joy straight away because or your starting point, but you could gradually choose thoughts that move you up the emotional scale one step at a time. Therefore, you might choose to feel angry and sit with that for a while, and then choose to feel annoyed, then frustrated, then bored, etc. etc. and gradually you will be able to move up the emotional scale towards your joy.
The thing to remember here is that by seeing your emotional state as your guidance system, you can appreciate it’s a wonderful way of working, and rather than beating up on yourself for feeling sad or depressed, you can approach things differently. You can say to yourself something like:
“I am feeling angry right now and that is OK. I am allowed to feel angry and I am pleased that my emotions are guiding me by showing me that I am further away from my goal than I want to be. I’m thankful for this knowledge and appreciate and I can now begin to change my thoughts to those that feel better because in doing so, I know I am moving closer to my goal.”
Can you see how this thought process would lead you more quickly out of your anger and more easily into joy? And you would release all the feelings of guilt that many of us feel when we feel angry too.
By focusing on how you are feeling, you can see where you are on this emotional scale and move up or down it using the power of your thoughts.
Joy is the goal
We have discussed already that feeling joyful and happy is the goal – it is the way that we feel like our true selves. Joseph Campbell wrote about “following your bliss” and many other teachers advocate feeling joyful and happy can lead to improvements in health and well-being generally. Feeling joyful is also the key to attracting everything you want in your life, material things, relationships and experiences. This is because joy is the frequency of source energy and when you are connected to your source, you will be without resistance, and the things you desire will manifest in your life.
So practicing being joyful really is the key to getting what you want and attracting everything you desire.
How can you get to happiness from anger, fear or frustration?
You cannot always make a seismic leap of faith. It is much better to feel your way up the scale one rung of the ladder at a time. Therefore, if you are feeling fear or anger, try to change your thoughts about the situation so that you can feel better, even if it is only one step up. Then you can move up from there and so on.
Another way to help yourself move up the emotional scale is to stop thinking so specifically about the problem you face, and think more generally. For example, if you have a problem with your car that is making you angry, try to take a step back and realise that these things happen to everyone, that it is not the universe picking on you, but that you know many other people whose cars have broken down at some time of another – it is not a personal vendetta between you and the universe. From there, you can begin to feel better. You may still feel frustrated but you will have moved up the scale simply by changing your thinking. Your emotional guidance system has worked to point out to you where your thinking is leading you away from your ultimate goal. Be thankful for that and start reaching for better feeling thoughts.
One final thought
I wish you much joy today so that you can set yourself on the goal sot manifesting what you want. However, I also understand that there will be many situations today over which you have no control – other people, traffic, workload for example. However, if you find yourself in a situation today that does not feel good, I urge you to listen to your guidance system in these situations and reach for a better feeling thought. Be thankful that you now have an understanding of the things you CAN change – your emotional reaction – and set about changing that. That way, you will not be waiting for the other person/thing/situation to change in order to feel happy. You will be taking direct charge of how you feel and changing that – which ultimately is the only thing you can change.
Have a wonderful and joyful day.
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