This Is Me – How to Stay True To Who You Are

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This is Me

If you haven’t seen “The Greatest Showman” yet, then you have missed out. I urge you to see it, for many reasons. You might not like musicals but this is a film where the musical and film genre meld perfectly together. The choreography and music is modern and the way that the choreography and filming is done is amazing. But it has a moral that all of us can learn from. It can also show you how to stay true to how you are, and why that is important.

One of the best songs from the show is called “This Is Me” and it is sung by a group of misfits and circus performers who have been labelled as ‘freaks’ and ‘outcasts’ by the Victorian society they live in.

In the film, Phineas T Barnum accepts them for who they are and brings them all together in his circus, offering them a chance of a livelihood, albeit initially, as ‘objects of curiosity’ for their more ‘socially-acceptable’ counterparts in society.

However, what happens is that this group of ‘misfits’ finally start to believe that they have something to give, and as their audience numbers and appreciation for their talent grows, so to does their confidence and self-esteem.

When they are later rejected cruelly from entering a party for the cream of the aristocracy, their disappointment turns to determination, and the song is sung beautifully by Keala Settle & The Greatest Showman Ensemble.  If you’ve not seen it, then watch the official video below.

Why Does It Matter?

The song is a great anthem to accepting yourself for who you are. It is a rousing chorus which stirs the blood and I defy anyone to listen to it without feeling proud of who they are ‘warts and all’ as the saying goes.

What is so excellent about this song is the way that it leads you to an understanding that even if you are different from other people, or don’t fit into the conventional boxes of ‘normality’ or what others deem ‘acceptable, you are still a valid and amazing person, just as you are. 

And speaking frankly, who really wants to fit into those ‘normal’ boxes anyway?!


I recently went to a football match with my girls (aged 10 and 12) since the town we live in has built a new football stadium for the local football team. I’m not particularly into football but we went to the opening of the stadium to see what it was like and to join in the fun of the opening game.

Now I may not be into football in a big way, but what I am into, is being who you are. And therefore when I go to a football match (this was only my second one, ever) I’m going to cheer them on. And that’s just what I did. A 52-year-old woman cheering on a team she’d never followed before, just for the hell of it. And you know what, it was great fun.

My children were mortally embarrassed obviously, but since I’m trying to lead by example, their pleas of ‘mum, stop shouting’ were like water of a duck’s back. I was doing what I felt was right, cheering on the team, without the slightest thought about whether the people around me thought of me. I was polite, I was energetic.  I was me!


Now I don’t tell you this story to prove what an inconsiderate mum I am. No, I tell you this because I honestly believe that if you can stay true to who you are, as a person, you will live a happier life.

Why “This is Me” should be your own anthem

It is not your job to make other people happy – it is their job to make themselves happy.

And by the same token, it is your job, and your job alone, to make yourself happy.

If you are constantly worried about what other people will think of you, then you will be trying to please them, and not yourself, and that will mean that you will either:

  • Not try to do the things you want to, just in case other people get upset, or
  • Do what everyone else wants you to do, and constantly live in regret.

Neither is ideal.

Now I’m not talking here about doing things that are illegal, immoral or that would cause general offense here. I’m merely talking about having pride in who you are and what you are – whoever and whatever that is.


Have Pride In Yourself

It’s been Gay Pride this week in London in the UK, where members of the LGBT+ community take to the streets to show that there is nothing to be ashamed of from having a different sexuality or gender identity to the majority of people.  In fact, it is something to be pround of.

I’m not Gay myself but I fully support the rights of anyone, anywhere, to decide who they are for themselves, free from oppression, fear and persecution. Being in the performing arts business, I have many friends who are Gay since this industry is by comparison, very accepting of homosexuality generally.

I also have a transgender relative. Luckily for me, these people are all proud and well-adjusted people who have learned that the “This is me” anthem, is one that is truly the only way to happiness.

Being proud of yourself is crucial to avoiding a life time of disapointment and regret. You cannot live your life for someone else, only YOU. When you understand that, you can take back you power and start to build the life YOU dream of, unencumbered by your thoughts of inadequacy or doubt.


There’s another great song in the same vein from the musical “Les Cages Aux Folles” about the Gay owners of a drag club in Saint Tropez when their son brings his fiance’s parents to meet them. It’s called “I Am What I Am” and is sung with the same determination and self-belief as “This is Me“.

I love both of these songs and they are definitely on my ‘go to’ list when I start to doubt myself of feel that I am letting other people’s opinions become more important than my own.

What’s interesting from a law of attraction perspective, is that having pride in yourself and setting your attraction point to this emotion, will bring more of the same; therefore more feelings of belonging, self-confidence and self-esteem.

When you succumb to the illusion that the rest of the world’s opinion of you is who you are, you are on the first step on the slippery slope down to self-doubt, disappointment and misery.

So what can you do if you find that other’s don’t accept you?

Here are a few suggestions:

1. Recognise that who you are is an important, amazing human being with as much right to be as happy and accepted as the next person. The universe does not exclude anyone or anything – there is no law of rejection – only the law of attraction. The universe is based on unconditional love and as such, is a tolerant, accepting place, without judgment or punishment. It simply reflects back to you what you offer It does not offer value judgments however much we might want it to.

Mankind is the only species that adds value judgments to things, and those are usually born out of a lack of understanding or a desire to force other people to behave in a certain way that the people in power find acceptable – it is a way of controlling people, not empowering people, but it comes from humans, not from God or the universe.

2. Understand that if you let the opinion of others limit you, then you will not be living your own life, but someone else’s. They do not have your goals and dreams; they have their own goals and dreams and their own ideas of what you should, or should not be doing. But don’t be drawn into their way of thinking because it will not lead to your own happiness.

If they are people you love (and often they are e.g. parent’s and  friends), then understand that it is OK to be on a different path than they are. You can acknowledge their opinion, you can respect their opinion, but you do not need to take it on as your own. Know the difference and be strong with your own ideas of self-identity. YOU are the only person with you from the day you are born to the day you die – you MUST be true to yourself as it is why you came here in the first place.

3. Look around for role models that you can look up to and learn from. There are many, many strong-minded people who have become a great role models for many persecuted people, in the past and present. Here are just a few that you can look up and follow for starters. They believed first and foremost in themselves and their own dignity and respect for themselves.

And having that, meant that they could go on to help millions.

  • Martin Luther King
  • Nelson Mandela
  • Noel Coward
  • Oscar Wilde
  • Mahatma Ghandi
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • William Wilberforce
  • Olaudah Equiano
  • Emmeline Pankhurst
  • Amelia Earhart
  • Rosa Parks
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Malala Yousafzai
  • Tom Paine
  • Abbe Pierre
  • Helen Keller
  • Elizabeth Fry
  • Germaine Greer

So I urge you today, to have a “This is Me” attitude when you face the world. I’m not saying it will all be plain sailing, but ultimately you will find peace with who you are, and there is nothing more important than that.


One final thought?

In the musical, “Oklahoma”, Aunt Eller stops the fight at the picnic between the farmers and the cowmen with a shot from her shotgun. She then berates them for not accepting each other’s differences, and finally sings these immortal words:

And who said that musicals were just ‘frivolous nonsense’?!

Have a wonderful day.

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Hi. I'm Gail and I'm a teacher, coach, writer and blogger who has been involved with self-development and the performing arts for over 30 years. I'm passionate about helping people to develop their full potential and I've studied education, the law of attraction, personal development and NLP which I write about on this site.

I love working with people of all ages and backgrounds and truly believe that we are all unique, unlimited creative beings who can do wonderful things with a positive attitude and spiritual outlook on life.

Here's to your continued success.

Gail

12 Comments

  1. I loved this, the song is amazing. Your post is spot on if more people lived like this it would be an amazing world. I will be looking for more posts from you.
    David

    • Totally agree Erick. Being yourself is what we are meant to do here on this planet. Be ourselves and expand consciousness by our choices and experiences. Not a bad ‘to do’ list. 🙂

  2. I love your article! It inspired me, and I think will inspire many who visit your site. You have picked a subject that I believe has universal appeal.

    As to your website — you have obviously been working on it for awhile. I like your pictures and the video. They add color and action to the site. I like your layout. I need to learn to do the right side bar the way you have. I think your site looks very professional, and that, too, inspires me, because I want my site to be as good. Thank you for teaching by example, and for sharing your site.

    • Hi Fran. Thank you for your really kind comments. I’m glad you found the post inspiring and agree that this subject affects a lot of people, who sadly don’t always find it easy to ignore the criticisms of others. But it really is the only way to happiness.
      I’m so glad that you liked the site too – to me it is still a work in progress but I’m not hung up on the perfectionist thing (at least not too much!) so I’m happy to let it ride and improve it as I have time. All the best for your own business too. Researching sites and how they are designed is something we should all be doing to keep up to date with the latest developments and styles. Websites have a fashion element too I think.

  3. What a great, positive post, Gail! Thankyou for this insight into how to stay true to who you are and not let other’s opinions get us off track with our life purpose.

    Love the story of the football game with your kids, but one important question – who won the game in the end?

    • Haha – well, the answer to your question Kay, is that it was a bit of a whitewash. It was a celebrity ’11’ versus a local football team, and the final score was footballers 9; celebrities, 3. And that was even after the celebs had 15 on the pitch instead of 11! It was a good night though.
      Thanks for your comment on the post and hopefully it will help you to keep on your own path, regardless of what other people think. ‘Each to their own’ I say.

  4. Hi Gail
    What a fabulous article and I agree with you 100%. I am Gay and I have always been me. I have lived my 59 years free inside and out and there are so many people Gay or Not that hideaway, wearing their gong out masks. I say. Take off the mask and fly free
    I am who I am from the movie birdcage is so cool and so is the movie. Love it
    All the very best at being you

    • Hi Vicki. Thanks for your comment and I’m so pleased that you are living the life you were born to and not hiding away under a mask. I fear that many people have not yet found the freedom and liberation that your attitude brings so let’s hope they do so soon.
      All the best and please come back soon. Gail

  5. I watched The Greatest Showman! And, my favorite song in the movie is ‘A Million Dreams’. I love “This Is Me” too =)

    I’m glad I have stumbled upon your post. You know, sometimes I doubt myself a lot, I have goals but I keep questioning myself if I can make it. I tend to keep my hardwork as a secret from my family and friends because I’m not sure of what they will say to me or how they will think about me.

    Well, it is clear now, that it does not matter whatever they will say because ultimately my dreams are mine, from the beginning to the end.

    “They do not have your goals and dreams; they have their own goals and dreams and their own ideas of what you should, or should not be doing. But don’t be drawn into their way of thinking because it will not lead to your own happiness.”

    Inspiring words. Thank you so very much for sharing.

    • Hi there. I’m so glad you found the post too and even more excited that it could help you in some way. I think many people have a lot of doubts that stem from their early years, when they were trying to please the people around them, teachers, parents, siblings. We all learned to cope in our own way and even though many of those people had our best interests at heart, they really were in a way trying to control what we did. What we all learned from that is that we need to please other people first, and then if there is any time or space left in our lives, we are allowed to concentrate on what we want. That’s such a skewed way of thinking and yet is is what many of us do.
      Waking up to the realisation that you are the creator of your own experience means you ultimately have to take control of your own life, choices and dreams too. But how amazing is that feeling, when we free ourselves from the shackles of having to please other people in order to find happiness? It’s life-giving! 🙂
      Hope you have a wonderful day and I’m so pleased you stopped by. I look forward to speaking to you again soon. Gail

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